We jumping you now 🤣

I mean as the rest have said. We see what you’re getting at… it’s just a false parallel

As a nigga that doesn’t care about male thoughts and feelings!!! Yall niggas need to SHUT THE FUCK UP!!! #Subjeet

I mean you could be insecure or it’s just your preference. If you’re not into that and someone ask you. Just simply say no. Now if you get all rah rah about it…. There might be a lil something else going on

I guess. I just don’t know why you’d position it like that to your partner. It’d come off a type of way to your partner I would imagine.

That would be neither. That’s a sexual preference.

Boundaries help us protect areas that we feel sensitive or insecure about.

If its the ex or the pope if she wanna give that pussy away nigga its SOLD!!!!!!

NO! Because that is not a BOUNDARY for them. He is not insecure in THAT situation. He admitted there are some names she could say that he would say no too.

I have been with corporate women, I have also slept with tourist, as I live in a convention city. So its all about you and your partner. If your shit rocky she gone do what she gone do. If you aint doing what you supposed to she gone do it too. But, if you are doing your job right as a man and supporter of your partner trust she will have the dinner and not disrespect the relationship.

Wait round two?.. I thought yall was done

Ahhh this like talkin to a woman. You see a word and get attached to it. I said you have you had to understand what compromise is. That wasnt me asking Do you compromise for your boundaries. I then asked do your realize you dont CONTROL your partner. You neglected that.

If your partner respected your boundary. And your partner did not want to attend said dinner. Your partner would not ask you to go. But, you from the questionin the partner does want to go, so she on the way out whether you know it or not. You just the last one to know.

You and your partner discussing what respect looks like for the both of you is not having boundaries. Telling someone how to treat you is setting boundaries. When you treat me like.... When you talk to me like... That would be setting boundaries. When you start dictating their actions it turns into something else. If you go here it will make me... When you talk to.... When you wear...

Thats two different things

Ahhh this like talkin to a woman. You see a word and get attached to it. I said you have you had to understand what compromise is. That wasnt me asking Do you compromise for your boundaries. I then asked do your realize you dont CONTROL your partner. You neglected that.

If your partner respected your boundary. And your partner did not want to attend said dinner. Your partner would not ask you to go. But, you from the questionin the partner does want to go, so she on the way out whether you know it or not. You just the last one to know.

You still haven’t answered my question from earlier. Do you think your no is going to stop her if she wants to go?

And also AGAIN if you are setting up limitations, parameters, boundaries in order for your relationship to succeed..... ITS GOING TO FAIL

Yes. And?!......

As for you initial statement. You further express the inability to comprehend the message. When you establish your relationship the boundaries are set from that conversation. If you are not, then you are not properly vetting.

I have cont. to say if you have a boundary where TRUST is the foundation having dinner should not be a worry. However, that boundary also would NOT be tested if when yall conversed about the relationship. If ur partner is not already mentally one foot out the door.

Thought So.... Unexperienced just talkin cuh!

Are you not insecure, a lil insecure or in denial?

Niggas be labeling their insecurities as boundaries. Self sabotage at its finest!

No! But if you have to set up boundaries to secure the safety and security of the longevity of the relationship then YES it is..

Notice Im talking direct to you...

Are you married, if so how long? Do you have children if so how old?

I am aware you’re not saying that. But I think it’s the underlying issue. We all have insecurities. I think men feel chump being honest about it

Yall they beefing …. Go put batteries in they back … cus I wouldn’t let nobody talk to me like that lol

Sure....

If you Pussy and scared of other niggaz just say that.... NO SUB!!!! IM Direct with it...

le sigh.... Dawg you strugglin thru this convesation. U aint gotta say you think ur wife would leave or cheat the actions and words speak for themselves. you dont trust your partner, or trust that they are telling you the truth. Or what you wanna say you dont trust the other person? So again you dont trust your partner to have made a proper decision in the first place. Which would be a completely different coversation.

This ...every "negative " feeling or emotion is not based in insecurity...I can say no, not like something or be jealous even and not be insecure... because I dont feel anyway about myself when I feel these feelings

I think the entire conversation comes down to the last word in that definition. “That make you question your safety”. To me the safety of your relationship is the part you’d be questioning.

You think setting a boundary is supposed to secure your insecurities of your partner leaving. People gone do whatever they want to do, you just gotta make sure you doing your part to secure their decision in choosing you. And the same goes in reverse

Not, er'thing is about U tho. If ur partner approached u and had real intentions to further the relationship with u then the reason would be revealed. And since there is a NEED for scenarios to give u security in ur insecurities that forced u to set a BOUNDARY.

Lets say ur partner has been holding in some hurt. Some pain that had not been revealed to u, that was caused by said ex. A sit down convo could be had whether it be dinner, or lunch. SO that they may heal. However the real issue here is the insecurity of pot loss of her.

That’s the only part for me. I’d have accept that is her desire and act accordingly. I’m not finna negotiate my desires against hers.

Do you have any insecurities?

You keep saying “need”. Nobody need to do anything. If they’re friends they may just want to catchup. I’m not telling my wife no. That is not to say I won’t feel a type of way etc. But if it’s something she has a desire to do… that is the problem. Not that she went. Why does she desire to do it? Same as Aaron Rodgers fiancé going to get popped. I don’t care about the pop. I want to know why you want that. And why you think you can say that to me???

Is my relationship in shambles, if so what did I do. If I did nothing then shit if the woman cheating Im out. Aint no need to make a big fuss about shit, I did my part time to move on. Be hurt on the way out the door. Fuck all this who wrong who... Niggaz is GROWN!!! Not children this aint a tit for tat. I talk toxic shit about bitches i dont give a fuck about. Women do the same. She cheated cuz she aint give a fuck.... NEXT

Why I gotta dig that deep. 1. Thing for certain is if I jump in a relationship my insecurity will never be if she goin somewhere, or cheating ever again. Have I exp. that? Yes. But that not where my concern lies.

So the initial question was about the insecurity of your partner going on this dinner date. So if said partner confronts you about it assuming asking permission to go, and the response is NO there lies the insecurity. The insecurity of losing your partner.

You focuse on your partner and ex communicating... I could give a fuck less.

I don’t mind explaining why it’s an issue. It doesn’t even have to be an argument if he genuinely doesn’t understand and had no ill intent. But he needs to be able to clearly explain what was the purpose of the dinner and why he had the desire to go.

And it’s important about who the ex is and their relationship. Like if yall were already friends, that’s understandable. But if it’s on some rekindling shit, yeaaa nah I’m not rolling with that.

Yes it can be a insecurity because you dont control ur partner. You should be secure in self to allow ur partner to make heady decisions on their own. That is a decision they should be able to make all on their own.

Lolol I dont think yall deal with your insecurities

It can be. What is the reason you don’t agree? Are you worried that she may cheat?

What about getting married then having an affair!??? That HAS to be higher!!!

If your boundaries are an attempt to control another person they stem from insecurities.